5 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF WHEN YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOU WANT TO DO WITH THE REST OF YOUR LIFE
This super-fun existential question of what to do when you don’t know what to do with your life is something that many of us of experience at some point (or points). Maybe you find your current career path to be unfulfilling, or you hear the gentle siren of “grad school, grad school” calling to you. Doubting your life choices and wondering whether you should go back to the drawing board is a big, scary, and totally common thing. And, more good news: You don’t have to tackle the conundrum alone.
That’s a truth I know all too well: At age 20, I wasn’t invited back to the fashion design program in which I was enrolled in Philadelphia, because I earned D+ in flat pattern over the summer. Despite my unease about the future (okay, let’s call a spade a spade—I couldn’t stop crying), I had already done enough self-reflection to brainstorm a wobbly Plan B, C, and D. And, one day at a bus stop, I helped myself to explaining these plans to a complete stranger.
“I could try to fight to stay in the program, which at this point sounds exhausting; I could switch my major to textile design…” I mused, ticking off the options on my fingers. “Or I could leave the school in shame, go to community college for a year, and maybe get into journalism.” After I stopped rambling, the kind stranger distilled for me what would become my new reality: “I think you have your answer,” she said. This valley in my life of near failure and self-doubt was a total dark moment for me, but while I had a number of uncertainties with which to contend, I also had options. And options double as opportunities.
But where do you start when you find yourself miserable and confused and totally unsure of what to do when you don’t know what to do? As in, you have no Plan B, C, or D to guide you. According to life coach Susie Moore, the best tip to follow is a very simple one: relax. “Answers, ideas, and inspiration don’t flow to us when we’re stressed out,” Moore says. “Know you have time, and that being unsure of what’s next in life is very common. It’s one of the most talked-about issues in life coaching. Spend some quiet time thinking and reflecting on what matters to you and what you feel passionate about.” Below, find five questions to ask yourself that Moore says will help you find clarity in a sea of uncertainty.
Ask yourself these 5 questions to unveil what to do when you don’t know what to do.
1. “What am I doing when I’m slacking off at work?”
“What do you love to research?” Moore asks. “[What do you] look up online? Who do you follow on Instagram? All of these things are great insight into what you care about.”
This exercise may not draw a direct line to your next career move if you’re, say, submerged in an onslaught of baby duck videos, but who knows? There might be a way to do anything if you brainstorm in accordance with what drives you.
Read the full article HERE wellandgood.com.