Therapist’s Pick/Book of the Month
Therapist: Dawn Krull MA, MS, TLLP
Theme: Grief and Loss
Everyone experiences grief and loss on their own terms and in unique ways. Grief can come from death or from any loss really and can also occur before a loss as well as after. Many are aware of or have heard of the five stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. The stages can intermingle, be out of order, and repeat. Grief is complicated and takes time.
On Grief & Grieving, Finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss written by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross M.D. and David Kessler takes the five stages of death and applies them to grief and loss. The book covers the five stages, but also various other facets of life and situations individuals face during those difficult times. Difficult or taboo subjects such as inner grief (personal roles, emotional rest, regret, hauntings, and dreams) and outer grief (sex, tasks, finances, clothing and age) are explored in depth. The book also discusses more sensitive specific circumstances such as Alzheimer’s disease, suicide, multiple losses, loss of children, and sudden death.
The book was originally recommended by a friend several years after the sudden loss of a close family member. Even after so much time, On Grief & Grieving opened my mind, my eyes, and my heart to another world of grief and loss that allowed me to finally heal and understand my own feelings. I have recommended the book to many and use it as a reference for an anticipatory grief group. The book is a wonderful tool for the healing process and strongly recommended.
Kubler-Ross, E., & Kessler, D., (2005). On Grief & Grieving, Finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss. New York, NY: Scribner.