Submitted by Gman8361 | February 17, 2017
Original article posted here on Grief Toolbox
“I’m tired all the time. I can barely put one foot in front of the other. Bruce is the same way. Exhaustion has become a way of life,” Carla said.
Carla and Bruce’s sons Blake and Barrett were practically inseparable. Two years apart, they grew up as boys will – competing, fighting, cooperating, and having great adventures together. The family lived on a large piece of land out in the country, giving the boys lots of room to roam and explore. They loved their mini-kingdom.
One Saturday, the boys were out riding their ATVs. Inattention led to a loss of control and they collided. Barrett was killed instantly. Blake died a day later in the hospital. They were 13 and 15.
“Life is heavy now. Last night at dinner, I was so exhausted that I could barely chew. Fatigue has taken over our lives,” Carla shared.
Grief takes incredible energy
Losing a loved one is like being hit by a bus. It immobilizes us. The shock waves are immense, and roll over us again and again, relentless and debilitating. Some days, we can barely lift our heads.
Chronic fatigue, even exhaustion, is a common and natural experience for those in heavy grief.
We wake in the morning and it smacks us again. They’re gone. The shock stuns us. We close our eyes and sigh.
We rise and attempt to do life. We drag from room to room, place to place, task to task. There is little to no heart in what we do. How could there be? Our heart is shattered and in a million pieces.
We put on a mask and fake it through the day. Others are aware of our pain, but don’t know what to do with it. Relationships become awkward, tentative, and different.
At work, we go through the motions. Our performance isn’t what it was. We’re more irritable and erratic. We wonder what others are thinking.
Perhaps we have children. They might be grieving too. We can’t handle ourselves right now, so how in the world do we love them through this? Our backs are broken. The thought of shouldering any more weight – even an ounce more – is terrifying.
Numb. Dazed. Fatigued. Exhausted. Our bodies are feeling it. Grief is terribly draining.
Read the full article here for strategies on coping with exhaustion from grief.